Being a parent is a very delicate work. From the day you find out that you’re pregnant your responsibilities change. You’re no longer living for yourself, everything you do from that point on will have to include consideration of your child. There is no such thing as a perfect parent let alone a perfect person. If you’re questioning yourself about your parenting, know that as long as you are doing your best then you are doing just fine.
You should be focussing on your relationship with yourself before your relationship with your child. When you’re focussing on how to have a good relationship with yourself then you’ll realize that the better your relationship you have with yourself, the better your relationship you’ll have with your child.
Let’s start by answering these four questions:
- How much do you love yourself in a scale of 1 to 10.
2. Are you doing what you love to do and are you really enjoying the life that you’re in right now?
3. Do you have any other purposes in life other than being a parent?
4. How often do you think about yourself, your own needs before everyone else’s?
Once you have the answers for these questions then you should have a picture in your head in which you will know how much you love yourself and how satisfied you are with your relationship with yourself.
There are also three areas in your life that can directly affect your child:
First one is your self-esteem and your self-respect. The way you think of yourself, the words you use to describe yourself, and the way how you judge yourself will show your child how he or she should be treating themselves.
The second area is your life style. The foods that you eat, the places that you go, things that you like, your taste in general, and even the songs that you listen to will likely to impact their life style.
The third area is your personality. How you act in front of your child will have direct effect on how they act in front of others and treat others. For example, if you treat a waitress at a restaurant with disrespect in front of your child, then your child could think that it is ok to treat other people the same way.
We as parents are really the first teachers of our children. They love to mimic us, especially when they are young. That’s why when we focus on treating our selves better with love and respect, our kids will likely to do the same. Having said all this, I want to tell you three things you can do to have a better relationship with yourself.
First one is to take good care of yourself. Don’t lose yourself, and don’t give up on your own goals. Make sure you make the time to do the things that you enjoy. Put yourself together, dress well, keep yourself clean, and just look good. When you look good, you feel good.
Second one is to make sure to spend quality time with yourself. Get to know yourself more, have more “ME” time.
The third point is to focus on being a happy parent instead of a perfect parent. This means spending quality time with your kids. Do some fun activities that they enjoy like painting, play hide and seek, or just let them decide what game they wanna play. Let your child get to know you more as well by having more personal conversations. Try to have a real bond and connection instead of giving them all the material stuff. Make sure to give your happy self to them, that is the best that you can give to your child over anything.
To conclude, the more healthier and better relationship you have with yourself, the more will it make you confident as a parent. Remember that you are growing every day just like your child and you also have needs. I hope you can reflect on the three important areas that I mentioned and apply them to your life. Like I said before, happy parents will have happy kids; so if you want your child to grow up to be a more positive and happy person, make sure that you are a positive and happy parent.
I hope these tips can be helpful to you! Don’t forget to share this blog post if you think someone could benefit from this! 💗
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