Tips to keep your marriage exciting even after having kids:
1. Date nights
Have date nights at least once a month even if it means to stay in and watch Netflix & chill. When my hubby & I can’t find a babysitter, we try to have our date nights at home after our son is asleep. We order takeout wings and enjoy them while watching our favourite show! This is actually one of my favourite types of date nights!
2. Connect and chill
It is so important to connect with your partner emotionally and physically. Especially nowadays, we are so used to calling or texting each other during the day when we are apart, and once we get home, we tend to be so busy getting ready for the next day. We then forget to connect and have a good conversation face to face. At the end of the day, you and your partner are a team. A team works better when both members sit down at the end of the day and check in to share their days with each other. It is important to share your thoughts, have each other’s’ backs, and support each other emotionally & physically! When you have kids, it’s even more important for you both to sit down and talk about your child and make sure you both are there for your little one as well!
3. Give gifts or little love notes
Giving gifts to your partner is also a form of caring. It doesn’t have to be anything expensive; you can send flowers, little handmade DIYs, or even a little handwritten love note can bring lots of positive energy to your lover. I used to leave small love notes in my husband’s lunch-pill when he couldn’t come home for lunch. Nowadays I hide them in his pockets or in his car. I make sure not to overdo it because I like it when he finds them without expecting as a little surprise. I can tell he loves it too!
4. Give hugs & kisses
This might sound little obvious, but it is a big reminder!! There is absolutely nothing that feels better than being loved by your partner and hugs and kisses bring so much more positive energy! A good marriage is created by a good uplifting and positive environment. The more positive energy you can give to your partner, the happier your marriage will be. And try to complain less and compliment more!
5. Mini getaways and be very spontaneous!
Planning mini getaways, weekend trips, or just spontaneously going for a drive to your favourite spot in town can be very exciting! Even if you have to take your little one with you, it is so fun to just go out and have some fresh air together! Sometimes, it is important to get out of daily schedule and routine to just go out and have some fun adventure together!
As we all know, bedroom fun is another key to a happy marriage. It is not the most important thing but definitely is part of the game! It is always fun to spice up your sex life and try something different together! I like to think of sex as a playtime; be open, feel confident and just have so much fun! ?
7. Cook meals together (Share household responsibilities)
I love to cook but I love it more when my husband helps me to cook. The food gets done quicker, better and happier when we do it together! It’s nice to share household responsibilities with your partner; everyone enjoys the home cooked meal and gets to spend more time together! It’s a win-win for everyone!
8. Take good care of yourself before you take care of your spouse
I have mentioned this in one of my previous blogs, the importance of self-love after marriage! Marriage is not only about taking care of your partner and family…. It might sound easier than it’s done but remember not to only dedicate yourself and time on everyone around you but yourself! Remember to practice self-love and self-reflection; do your makeup, dress up and do things you love! It’s okay to be tired and messy some days; life is life and not every day is going to be perfect. However, remember that you must not neglect your own needs and wellbeing! Because when you feel happy, you can then make everyone else happy around you!
9. Be playful
You want to be relaxed around the person you love. Couples who play together, stays together. At the end of the day, you want to enjoy your time with your partner. It’s better to be more nice and loving towards him/her than trying to bring problems up and focus on the negatives. The more negatives you focus on, the more negatives will come… It’s best to take things easy and just be best friend with your partner.
10. Create memories & show gratitude
Last but not least, what keeps two people together is definitely the memories, responsibilities and love. Every day is a great opportunity for you both to create a good memory together, wether if it means all of the above on my list or just simply thanking each other for being there for each other. Thanking your partner for all that he/she has done for you and your family. Let them know that you appreciate their efforts. Let them hear it directly from you so that they know they are thanked and noticed. It will not only bring you two more closer but also remind yourselves that what really matters in a marriage is to be thankful for the person who is next to you, the one who is been there with you through all the good and bad!
I hope after reading this blog post, you are reminded to go to your partner and give him/her lots of hugs & kisses and just thank them for who they are. Be thankful for all the memories, blessings and the beautiful family you guys have created together! Always keep in mind that marriage is full of ups & downs, so make sure to bring a lot of love and fun to your marriage! ❤️
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