Losing weight after giving birth can be tough due to the different types of female bodies and metabolism. I personally gained a lot of weight during the end of my pregnancy and even after giving birth, I was one of those moms who struggled to lose body weight and go back to the fit girl that I used to be.
For so long, I was very negative about it. I felt so depressed about how my body had changed when I looked into the mirror. I focused so much on the negatives by comparing myself with other moms who got their body back so quickly after their pregnancies. I also kept comparing my body to the body I had before I got pregnant. The more I compared myself to others and myself in the past, the more I became impatient and hard on myself which actually made it even harder for me to lose weight… I know that many moms out there are struggling with the same issue as me and I want to let you moms know that you’re not alone! I know exactly how you feel! But listen! We can do it, we just have to really change the way we think and view our bodies. We gotta change our mindset about ourselves first…
In order to get the results we want, we have to be easy on ourselves. I told myself that it’s okay if I can’t lose weight right now, but I will get there one day; and, it’s okay if I don’t get there as long as I have tried… I promised to myself that I will not let my body weight change who I am from the inside.
We all agree that, in order to get anywhere and get the desired results, we have to take action. In other words, we have to actually make a plan, set a goal, and be dedicated to our goals. We must do things that can help us succeed like trying to eat healthier, do more workouts, and all the positive things that can help us achieve our goal. But before starting to do anything, we first need to fix our negative self-image…
When I look at moms that have great bodies now, I’m happy for them from my heart and no longer compare myself to my old body neither. The reason is because I want to live in my own current body and be present so I can focus more on things that matter the most to me instead.
Even though I know that I’m still quite far away from my goal, I still stay positive. What helps me stay positive is my gratefulness for even being able to have experienced pregnancy in the first place. To me it was so magical and memorable. Yes my body has changed, but I was gifted with a little boy that is worth everything and more. It doesn’t matter if I gained 10, 20 or even 50 kg… The whole experience of having a baby was a dream came true to me. It was all worth it and I would do it again and again for my son.
All the negative self-talks and low self-esteem come from believing in your own negative thoughts and worrying about others’ opinions about you.
The moment you realize your body is just a flesh and bones, but it’s the soul that actually matters, you will then try to focus on your inside instead. When you try to fix your inside, your mind will then change, which then will help you become more confident in yourself, and better yourself from inside-out.
Speaking of feeling good from the inside, I try more often to remind myself that I’m a mother and a loving wife, I don’t have to be looking certain way to get someone else’s approval or attention. I’m a sexy mom if I think of myself as a sexy mom. I just want to be a great mom to my son. I know that he doesn’t care if I’m fat or skinny; he only cares if I’m happy or sad. So I want to be a happy mom for him. I chose to accept my current body weight happily and use more of my time and energy to focus on being a good mom to my son instead.
But that doesn’t mean I’m going to give up on losing weight, because if I give up, it will mean that I lost to negativity. Instead, I tell myself to fix my inner-confidence first, be okay with the body that I currently have, love it, and thank my body for being able to produce a healthy baby.
Once I truly accept my current weight, I can start writing down all the things that I can do to help me lose weight. At the same time, I also want to start my goal with focusing on self love and well being. I lost about 3kg so far from following my list, but I’m dedicated. Most importantly, I want to enjoy doing them as much as possible for not only losing weight, but also for a healthier lifestyle in general. I want to look at my list as a reminder instead of rules. In other words, I want to take it easy, but also remember to follow it.
Here are some items on my list to enjoy:
1. Drink more water
2. Eat more greens
3. Stop eating after 7PM
4. Going for a walk after dinner
5. Be more active during the day
6. Go to the gym at least twice a week
7. Get more sleep
8. Stop negative self talks
9. Stop comparing
10. Focus on being a happy & healthy mom
After writing down your own list, don’t forget to remind yourself that it will take time to see results. As I mentioned on my list, write down goals that are easier to achieve and focus on self love.
Make sure the list you made feels right and feels good to you. At the end of the day, your list is just things that can help you go the right direction. Just enjoy the journey and let the list guide you towards your final destination; in the meantime, love the body you have right now. Be thankful for having a body to be alive and be a mother to your child. Put more focus on enjoying life and be more present in the moment!
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